At it's heart, this way of thinking comes from an inability to receive love and approval without having earned it. On top of this, deep down, the person really doesn't expect to be able to measure up. We refer to it as 'Performance Orientation' and it leads to all kinds of ungodly striving. The person obsessively works to gain approval, but even when they get it they can't really receive it. If they do get some momentary satisfaction, it doesn't last. They need to keep working hard to maintain or exceed what they think is expected of them. It results in all kinds of harmful attitudes and actions including perfectionism, pride, discouragement, disillusionment, depression, judgmentalism, lack of compassion and understanding, etc. At best, the person is effective in their 'jobs' either at work, with the family, or at church, and other people appreciate their efforts but miss the person's real needs. Their busyness keeps them from really connecting with others. At worst, discouragement settles in and they begin self destructive behaviors. They may sabotage their own hard work either to get the attention their striving wasn't able to garner, or even simply as an expression of their hopeless inability to measure up. Even when they're shown genuine love and approval, they aren't able to receive it because deep down they don't believe they're worth it. A good sign that someone is performance oriented is that they are always willing to help, yet never willing to let anyone help them. They can look very noble, but in fact are wracked by an insecurity that keeps them from being able to be vulnerable.
There are several problems with this way of thinking in relation to Church life and salvation including the following:
- We try to earn what Jesus has already fully accomplished through His death on the cross and His resurrection.
- We aren't able to come into community by letting the Church help us when we need them.
- We preach the sufficiency of Jesus's sacrifice, yet model an incompatible lifestyle.
- We become unable to show compassion, holding others to the same or greater standard than what we've created for ourselves.
- We are unable to receive the fullness of who God is or really understand His heart and character.
- The root of what we do is actually insecurity, fear, self protection, manipulation and control. Though in His grace God will meet those we minister to, those wrong motivations will keep us from seeing the fullness of His fruit in our own lives and service.
See, for many people, grace now means that God is a cuddly loving Father who would never judge us. You are His precious creation that He loves so much and you're perfect just the way you are.
This just isn't backed up by the Bible. In fact, sentiments like this take power away from God's grace. After all, grace is needed because we aren't good enough and on our own could never be good enough. Grace says that we need help. We need something greater than ourselves. We need to be killed and remade in order to escape the corruption of who we were. Any attempt to ease the conscience or remove guilt outside of Christ's crucifixion is simply Freudian psychology at work. Covering over a legitimately guilty conscience with convincing logic and platitudes doesn't get to the root of the problem and doesn't lift the individual out of their corruption or enable them to come into the image of God. Only the power of the crucifixion and resurrection, and the active application of grace can do that.
I don't want to insinuate that God doesn't love us. That's not the part I take issue with. On the contrary, while we were in our worst, most sinful state, Christ died for us. It's not that we're good enough as is, but rather that He sees us in our broken, sinful, deluded state and His heart breaks for us, knowing that we are beyond help. There is nothing in all of creation that could save us from our own corruption. The Father wanted relationship with us so passionately that He had to take the most drastic measure in history. God had to become perfect flesh and blood, had to live our lives, had to suffer and die having become our sin, in order that we could become His righteousness. It has never been about how good we are, but His sacrifice is certainly about how bad we were. How can we fully appreciate the effectiveness and power of God's grace if we don't understand just how rotten to the core we have been? His love is so deep and we see this depth in relation to how far He had to and was willing to go to see us fully restored.
Jesus put it this way when the religious official had a judgmental attitude toward a repentant woman:
For this reason I say to you, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little.”
So, we see three different ways of reacting to grace. First is working to earn it. That actually sidesteps God's grace entirely. The very definition of grace is that it is a gift we cannot earn. The second reaction takes grace for granted, not understanding who God is, where we came from, or appreciating the sacrifice. The proper reaction can actually look like either of the first two, depending on the season and the individual, but is actually a loving and grateful response to what Jesus has done for us. Sometimes that looks like we're working furiously to please Him, while at other times we simply rest in the peace that He gives. In reality we're no longer slaves to our sin and we're passionately submitted to Him, knowing our lives are no longer our own. The results are pure fruit and good works motivated by pure love for Him, and empowered by His grace.
In part two I want to examine the concept of 'works' in the New Testament.